White dating black man
I am the mythical black girl that many of you encounter in life’s grand race to find “the one.” And like anything else in this life, our future together is uncertain. You own a metal detector and mine for gold in your free time?
We may be a part of each other’s stories for one night only or catch heart eyes and last several years (if you’re so lucky). That’s the most creative side hustle I’ve heard about in years!
Do I find white women attractive or do I see them as some exotic idea I should find attractive? I have to think my preferences were at least somewhat shaped by the ubiquitous image of Latin men as “The Lover,” an image that’s been shoved down my throat. Not even close.”So here I stand, trying to be woke, and not dating white women, and feeling kind of bad about that.Not because of what or whom we love, but as a way out, a way of being seen and of being saved. Because I’m definitely dating, and thinking that the decision to no longer date white women might not be my own, that any decision to choose a side doesn’t help the whole hashtag-woke thing because how do we solve anything if we just separate and isolate? Cool is such a simple word, not the word I want to be using right now. (I probably shouldn’t even be talking about dating or not dating white women.Like my pops said, “Maybe they’ll choose you.”It’s a message amplified by movies and TV, from “Save the Last Dance” to “Master of None” and dozens of other narratives that all feature, in one way or another, a black or brown man being made better from being with a white woman. An aspiration to “better the race” has always been a thing. And also, I mean, a lot of white women are really cool. Ah, man, this isn’t going where I wanted it to — )Anyway, this is me yearning, praying, journaling, writing, dialoguing, putting up a one-man show, wishing, trying to pick a side, wondering how to choose myself and trying to wrap my head around this, hoping that I’m doing woke right, because something just doesn’t feel right.And especially not the one who “joked” that the only reason I got my job was because of affirmative action. Actually, no, I definitely broke up with her because she’s white.