South korean dating customs
Being yourself and falling for someone who you truly connect with are things that seem to be on the backburner in certain situations.Of course, it’s impossible to tell whether or not this is pervasive – relationships are unique in every aspect and shouldn’t be compared to one another, but in South Korea, there is such a desire for relationships that an abundance of them, especially those sought out at young ages, tend to head in the direction of appearance over substance. And when does marriage and serious commitment come into play? “Obviously people date who they are attracted to, but that isn’t the main reason why people date each other.There’s even a subset of the language here, where women will change the tone of their voice when speaking to their boyfriends and add “ng” to the end of their words to make it sound ‘cute.’ For example, the word for yes (or right) is 네 (nay) and a girl exhibiting this type of ‘cute’ language might say 넹 (nayng) instead. My two main co-teachers are both married with children. Your personalities have to be compatible.” I reiterated that sentence so many times that day.Their perspectives on things have always been more mature in my eyes and I’m grateful to have two people with life experience to discuss deeper things. The structure of the sentence itself was layered with a deep subtext of assumptions, especially when it comes to gender roles in relationships.“Ummm…” I replied “usually men and women choose to date each other if their personalities are compatible” I said, trying to level the playing field for the girls. I had believed it was a universal truth, not a cultural belief.“In Korea..In this article, Rob dives into the intricacies of romantic love & relationships in S. This in-depth essay is the first of a series in which Rob will dissect various topics that make up Korea’s cultural fabric.
” to which I replied (obviously) no and they all kind of laughed and giggled and then asked “Why?!I am pleased to bring you the first guest writer to this is rocio—Rob Defina.Rob is a Canadian writer that shares my passion for cultural ethnography.Valentine’s Day is specified as the day where women buy men gifts ( the other way around).Now, don’t worry ladies, March 14th is the day where men get to return the favor.
In fact, I’ve been told by a contact helping me write this blog that doing your make up and working on your appearance is considered a sign of respect when you are going to meet up with someone.