Marriage and dating
Like I’ve mentioned above this article is not to convince people to consider arranged marriages or to say they are better, it’s only to show that what we perceive as a wrong way of living or of giving up ones rights is not the way the situation is looked at in other cultures.It’s important to realize that just as in ‘love’ marriages, it may not be right for everyone, and not all work well, but they should not be confused and associated with other social issues like domestic violence, dowry or womens rights.Whereas in the west people do not take the idea of marriage seriously until after they know a person for a number of years or feel like they know everything about the person.One way of looking at this difference is that after marriage you tend to accept your spouse’s differences and habits more easily than when you have a choice.
An Indian woman described it as “Here, we get married without having feelings for the person.We base our marriage on commitment, not on feelings. In America, you base your decision to marry on feelings, but what happens when the feelings wane?You have nothing left to keep the marriage together if you get married according to feelings and then the feelings go away.” In India, a relationship between two people is something that is presumed to be fostered and created throughout a lifetime of marriage.Arranged marriages have always been a debatable subject.It is in the major outlook on relationships that Indians are vastly different, in the way they perceive the institution of marriage, to those beliefs of other countries especially in the west.
Typically, the burden for the arrangement of the marriage is on the parents.