Childless by choice dating
Some reject the career limitations that parenting imposes.Some admit to disliking children or lacking the patience to parent.She’s successful, independent, and knows exactly what she wants.And yet: This single, 35 woman would rather be having pizza with a husband and children of her own on a Friday night than go on a date with another man who probably doesn’t want to settle down."Knowing that I may never have kids, I didn't quite know how to answer them without disappointing them or making them defensive.So I googled the subject matter, and found there were many groups of child-free people in my same boat, dealing with a myriad of child-free issues." In her book The Childless Revolution, author Madelyn Cain echoes Walters' sentiments.Just 41% of Americans said children are "very important" to a successful marriage. Today, resources for the voluntarily child-free abound. Most people, like myself, who decided early not to have kids, acknowledged an absence of desire.Support sources include social networking groups, like Childfree Meetup; web sites, such as nokidding.net; and books, including Families of Two: Interviews With Happily Married Couples Without Children by Choice. Speaking for myself, parenthood seemed too important or daunting an endeavor to go into without enthusiasm or desire." The reasons child-free couples give for not having children are as varied as the couples themselves.
A 2007 Pew Research Center survey showed that attitudes on whether children are integral to a relationship are changing.But what it flips to is “Well, you’ve taken the choice too far — you’ve waited too long, clearly you’re making the wrong choices, you’re being picky, maybe you’re not picky enough.” And finally it’s this idea that we’ve chosen this path on purpose — that we have chosen not to find love, or that we’ve chosen not to have children.But the majority of North American women and men want marriage.Q: Early in the book, one of your friends throws up her hands and says “F— feminism!” She’s talking about dating, the expectation that women are in control and men should not be chivalrous because that’s sexist.